tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043670783458458620.post3021906490332807929..comments2024-01-09T00:23:46.449+11:00Comments on The Widowhood Chronicles: Reliving Traumas That Are OverRosemary Nissen-Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05913841031559499568noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043670783458458620.post-27810870729600488722019-03-31T17:15:32.197+11:002019-03-31T17:15:32.197+11:00Comments left on a LiveJournal posting:
asakiyume...Comments left on a LiveJournal posting:<br /><br />asakiyume<br />My father would so, so identify. He says the same thing. Your spouse precisely is someone you *can* share that sort of thing with (... when your marriage is going well, anyway).<br /><br />It's strange, the loss of a spouse is like having a baby in this way: it brings people of any and all background together in shared experience. I don't know that you and my dad would have very much in common otherwise, but I think you'd recognize kindred souls in this.<br /><br />snakypoet <br />Yes, I'm sure you are right about that commonality of experience.<br />Rosemary Nissen-Wadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05913841031559499568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043670783458458620.post-25608550819914602712015-03-16T19:55:09.036+11:002015-03-16T19:55:09.036+11:00Many thanks for these wise and comforting words!Many thanks for these wise and comforting words!Rosemary Nissen-Wadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05913841031559499568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043670783458458620.post-60390165656377747032015-03-16T14:08:36.375+11:002015-03-16T14:08:36.375+11:00Rosemary I love the picture...sounds like what you...Rosemary I love the picture...sounds like what you're doing is healthy, even the going over old difficult moments--they made an impact, of course, and reliving them is a way of sorting them out, too, putting them away at last, perhaps, in a separate envelope. <br />The good stuff will start to rise to the surface soon enough.<br /><br />What you're doing now is making NEW memories =). <br />I think if you look at it that way, it might help. After all, before this<br />your only memories were of what came before. Now you have a chance<br />to make new stuff to remember later...<br /><br /> mittenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04878611591683283429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043670783458458620.post-59085216476628371672015-02-01T14:57:14.330+11:002015-02-01T14:57:14.330+11:00I think I will post once per month or so general h...I think I will post once per month or so general health / weight loss updatesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043670783458458620.post-78826608451438019622015-01-31T16:12:38.839+11:002015-01-31T16:12:38.839+11:00Yes, I expect it is all part of the process. And y...Yes, I expect it is all part of the process. And yes, bringing to mind positive memories does help. For a while that too was cause for sorrow, because those good things are gone — but then I realised it is a way to bring him back, or I can choose to look at it that way anyhow.<br /><br />I never read your food and weight loss journal in great detail, but it's been kinda nice to see that you were working towards your goals.Rosemary Nissen-Wadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05913841031559499568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043670783458458620.post-84558204259161484332015-01-31T12:38:45.438+11:002015-01-31T12:38:45.438+11:00I think that must be part of the grieving process,...I think that must be part of the grieving process, re hashing the problems. Does it help to consciously bring to mind good memories?<br /><br />Re alone thoughts and journals. I can relate. I think I am a bore on FB, but I don't care enough to limit my posts. I've started posting under the only me restriction on LJ - just the really, really, mind dulling stuff like food and weight loss journal. I have been single so long I don't remember what sharing minutiae was like. I don't think I miss it . T from L.A. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com